Carolyn Hax is away. The following first appeared April 25, 2010, and has been lightly edited.
Dear Carolyn: You wrote previously, about declining invitations one has already accepted, that “the host has feelings that need to be treated with more care, in this case, than one’s own.” A co-worker of mine would answer this with, “Well, I want to do what I feel like, etiquette be damned.”
