Woman Knows She’s Not Ready for a Relationship—Unique Reason Goes Viral

People often seek relationships for companionship, emotional support and shared experiences. However, they’re not for everyone—a sentiment perfectly captured by one woman in a TikTok video that has resonated with over 1 million viewers.

In the clip, Andrea Tamasi (@andrea_tamasi) looks into the camera and says, “Sometimes I think I’m ready for a relationship, and then I imagine someone sitting right here.” She then flips the camera to an empty sofa, before turning back to herself and adding, “And I just…um, no.”

Her caption reinforces the sentiment: “No thank you.”

The comments section indicates she’s not alone. Many viewers said the mere thought of sharing a living space with someone is enough to give them the “ick.”

“Exactly…I don’t want someone in my house,” said one user. Another wrote: “It’s sharing a bed….. absolutely not,” a comment that has almost 18,000 likes.

“It’s having to come home after a long day and having to deal with someone. And it’s the fact you have to be with them 24/7,” said a third user.

Newsweek reached out to @andrea_tamasi for comment via TikTok and could not verify the details of the case.

How Do You Know if You’re Ready for a Relationship?

Research reported in the journal Psychological Science indicates that more people are choosing lifelong singlehood, but this can bring economic and health challenges, especially with age.

The study, published in December, says lifelong singles report lower life satisfaction and distinct personality traits and emphasize the need for support networks tailored to their needs.

Newsweek discussed the December 31 video, which has over 206,000 likes, with Rachel Rose, a certified relationship and boundaries coach.

“You’re ready for a relationship when it feels like a desire, not a need,” she said. “A relationship should feel like a bonus—an enhancement to an already aligned, fulfilled and flowing life. If you’re not yet content romanticizing your own life, focus on that first.”

Rose, who is in England and goes by @iamrachel.rose on Instagram, helps women rebuild their trust in men and welcome love again.

“My most successful clients did this before attracting their soulmates, and it works because the energy of a full, abundant cup is magnetic. It naturally draws in the right partner to you effortlessly and usually lands you a much faster commitment to your ideal person.

“You’re also ready when you’re free of attachment to the past, having forgiven yourself and others, becoming an observer of the experience, and using it to fuel your growth in a healthy way,” she told Newsweek.

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