Mom Makes Simple Change To Teach Daughters To Be Polite

A mom has shared a simple hack to make sure her children use their manners.

Karalea Pior (@karaleapior) explained on TikTok, in a video that amassed 94,100 likes and 814,000 views, why she switched methods when teaching her children to say please and thank you.

“I think we all forget our manners sometimes, but instead of saying ‘how do you ask?’ or ‘where are your manners?’ I started saying ‘oh, are you asking me something?'” the mom said on camera.

In clips with her two daughters, she showed how she used the new method with each one.

One of the daughters gave her mom a container to open, saying: “Do this one mom, too.”

“Are you asking me something?” Pior replied.

The daughter then rephrased her question: “Can you please do this one too?”

The trick worked with her older daughter too. She said: “Daddy, why didn’t you get up and get cut up apples?”

“Are you asking him for something?” Pior asked. The daughter responded: “Can I have cut up apples please?”

The mom admitted she did not think there was anything wrong with her original method, but she preferred using this way. And to be fair, as shown at the beginning of the video, her previous method appeared to yield similar results.

“Manners are a pretty big deal to me. We’ve been instilling them into our kids since they talk, but they are human.

“I really like this. I started doing it about two years ago now and I’ve had quite a few people notice it in person and online and say they like it, so figured I would share,” Pior said in the TikTok caption.

Other moms shared their own tips in the comments section for teaching manners to their kids.

Lisa Henry suggested: “You can also try if they say ‘I want water’ to respond with ‘thank you for telling me that’ and they realized they had made a statement, rather than a question asking for water.”

Others said children were not the only ones who needed to remember their manners.

“I work at call center, I used this question too if customer being rude or talking with another person while on call with me,” said one user.

Vicky said: “This is so interesting, I use this at work with adults who demand things from me—’get my bag’ is responded to with ‘would you like me to pass your bag’ and they automatically correct their manners.”